Why do most relationships today have a higher probability of failing than succeeding?? (cont'd)

I guess relationships are no longer treated as seriously as in years past. The number of divorces tells us this fact. Noone is willing to stick to a relationship that seems to be doomed. We are no longer willing to stick to a guy or girl when things are not working the way we want. Sometimes, some people even quite relationships 'cos things are not as "sweet" as they used to be.

So am I saying you should stick with a relationship no matter what? Not necessarily. But you should know the difference between a resolvable problem and a problem with no solution. Sometimes, the problem is caused by misunderstandings that seem to arise all the time. The interesting thing is that while you may believe that the other party is the one at fault, you may also have some faults on your own. So before you rush out of the relationship, take time to study what exactly is wrong.

I also believe one of the greatest errors affecting so many of us is the misconception of love. It is so easy to declare your love to someone else, but much more difficult to practice that love. Love is more than an emotional feeling you have when you are attracted to or happy with your partner. Love is also a decision. You choose to remain with that person even when you are pissed and don't seem to like him that much at the moment. You choose to stick with her even when she's not understanding. You choose to be true to him even when you meet someone else that seems to understand you and who seems to always be there (unlike your partner).

We need to learn to trust ourselves and to be faithful. Without these basic foundations, no relationship can last. So if something seems wrong with your relationship, return to the foundation

Why do most relationships today have a higher probability of failing than succeeding??

I think that is a difficult question that cannot be answered simply. Different relationships have different problems, some of which seem insurmountable, making the couple in the relationship deciding to call it quits.

I think one thing common to most defunct relationships is the foundation. Movies today teaches us love at first sight. You seem some girl (or guy) walking out on the streets and suddenly noone else is in the world but you and him. If you are lucky, she (or he) catches you watching and smiles at you. Wow! Such a wonderful smile too and a great set of teeth. You spend the rest of the week thinking of her (or him) and how to get her. Two days latter and they are both in a relationship. Now these two don't know anything about each other, but they seem to believe that they would learn all there is to learn in the relationship. It is true that you can only know very little about someone from afar, but take sometime to know somethings. What are her (or his) likes, what makes her (or him) tick, what do people say about him, etc.

Looks can be very deceiving. She (or he) may look perfect on the outside, but there may be so much that is wrong inside. So instead of looking for the first opportunity to ask her out, try to make friends first.Try to truly know her (or him). Now being a friend allows you to know more about her (or him) and you see her (or him) for who she (or he) is when she (or he) is not aware...

To be continued...