The Science of Love

We are all familiar with the art of love - the emotions, romance, tenderness and the likes, and we spend so many get so distracted by these, that they don’t take time to study the inner workings. The Science of Love in this discussion refers to the logical study of love, which would lead to self-discovery and assist you in making that important decision.

We all have different character traits, and this affects our thought pattern and indeed how we love. It is important you discover who you are and then you know who to look for.  I sincerely hope you would discover yourself as you read and this discovery would assist you in building a meaningful relationship.

Choleric Love

For people with choleric temperament dating is not fun like it is with sanguine people. Choleric people approach dating in the same manner they approach other issues in their lives - they analyze their hopes and needs, as well as the potential partner. It is crucial that this potential partner shares their goals and interests, because choleric people need someone to exchange ideas and talk about what interests them, like science and politics. They need a mind mate.

People with this temperament are attracted by those who are good listeners, smart at handling conflicts and disagreements and have other recognized social skills. While they analyze and hide their own emotions, choleric people look for someone who is emotionally expressive, flexible and even hesitant. Often phlegmatic people are their choice.

Choleric people usually are not interested in several relationships at once and have little dating experience when they are young. They may act awkwardly. If they don't envision future with you and are not interested in you they may treat you with neglect and be very impatient. Because of their forthright style and take-charge approach they are likely to end the relationship abruptly when you may not even expect it.

On the other hand, if they find someone who they think is worth of their time and effort, they will focus intensively on that person. They can be very romantic and are ready for a deep commitment. Instead of expressing their emotions they will focus on pleasing you by getting you what you want. They like to be needed so describe them your problems and difficulties and they will try to fix it for you.

Between all four temperaments, this temperament “falls in love” less frequently. They have only few serious relationships during their lives. However if they decided to build a relationship they don't leave it easily even if it wasn't exactly what they wanted, because they don't like to change their minds.

Sanguine Love

Sanguine personality is most compatible with its own type, because this is the most adventurous of four temperaments. These people are looking for a play mate, someone who will go adventuring with them, be it in conversation, in bed, or around the world. They see dating as entertainment, they love to go out and do novel things. The relationship with sanguine person can be very exciting.

They love pleasure of senses. This is why they are likely to take you to all kinds of art and cultural events, movies, shows and exotic restaurants. They are highly sensitive to the world around them in general. You might notice their attraction to complex designs, abstract art, their preference to sour, spicy and crunchy food. They like intense and complicated music. Even their language is rhythmic.

Because of their extrovert nature and constant cravings for variety, most of them had a lot of experience in dating and adjust to almost any courtship situation. They are friendly and enthusiastic and have no desire to control you, so you are likely to feel comfortable and at ease. These people are also generous and are likely to give gifts early in the relationship.

Sanguine people are good listeners. They will ask you about yourself in order to engage you and to satisfy their curiosity. During the conversation many of them look directly at you, lean forward, pause less, respond to your questions quickly and readily. Most of them have no problem with moving from one topic to another. Interestingly they find self-disclosure difficult. They usually avoid conversations about their feelings. If you ask them about what they feel they will answer with jokes.

These people like nonsense and incongruous humor. They laugh at themselves easily. They are good at bantering and witty exchanges. As people pleasers they strive to perform and entertain. They love surprises.

Phlegmatic Love

Phlegmatic people seek for an ideal partner, because they feel an intense need for deep and meaningful connection. If they think you could be the one, they will work tirelessly in order to win you and promote love, harmony and connection. These people are flexible and affectionate. They excel at reading other people's feelings, good at expressing their own emotions. They are very empathetic and truly interested in other people, which helps them build meaningful relationships very quickly. Since they are in search for deep personal connection phlegmatic people like to go out with one person at a time. This allows them to explore the depths of this potential relationship. They avoid parties, because there is no room for sharing feelings and intimate exchanges. For them, socializing without being able to engage into heart-to-heart conversation is a boring and irrelevant.

This is the most sensitive of four temperaments. When they are with their potential partners phlegmatic seek for common intellectual and emotional ground, which will serve as a bridge from heart to heart. Because they reveal their feelings right in the beginning, they can be deeply hurt by rejection. These people do not see dating as fun like sanguine people do. Dating for them is always seeking for marriage or long-term committed relationship. They look for bonding, nurturing and attachment. When dating they truly give themselves. Sometimes they get so tired emotionally that they stop dating for a period of time.

Once phlegmatic people find "the one", they work on maintaining intimacy with this partner. They will avoid conflicts, they will do major adjustments and sacrifices - all for the sake of this cherished bond. Nearly every interaction like a simple call to office or a good bye kiss has a special meaning to them. They enjoy to analyze their relationships and their partners' thoughts and motives.

Between all four temperaments this is the most romantic one. They “fall in love” most frequently. Romance is critical to them, they plan romantic evenings and weekends in advance. They will send you romantic cards, give you hugs and confess their love in hope that you will answer with the same.

Because phlegmatic people have rich fantasy life, they tend to idealize their partners. Then when they get to know their mate they may start seeing imperfections and feel disillusioned, which could poison the entire relationship. Despite they seek for harmony and spend a lot of energy to build connection with their partners, they don't like clingy and overly demanding people.

Melancholic Love

While most of the people tend to become passionate and irrational when they fall in love, melancholics' love is more pragmatic and down-to-earth. Because melancholics see their love partners as assistants, their love preferences are based on common sense and compatibility. They should be predictable, adhering to the traditions and loyal to family.

Melancholics take dating seriously. They keep the good manners, they are never late, they will open doors for women and cook for men. Moreover, they will always make concrete plans for what you will do in advance. They will be protective of you and, if they are really serious, they are likely to give important gifts. In short, these people enjoy the traditions.

This type likes to be concrete, they like facts and are literal in everything. Their conversation is detailed and factual. They hate drama and may appear unromantic to other types. This is the reason why they are usually attracted to their own type, especially when they are willing to settle down and start the family. Melancholics do not choose their life partners impulsively. They do it very cautiously, considering the opinions of their friends and relatives. They fear to be criticized, this is why they may need friends and relatives to approve their date before they commit to him or her. This is also one of the reasons why melancholic people enjoy to do things as a couple within a larger group of friends.

Between all four temperaments, these people can be classified as pillars of society. They enjoy community events and outings with the group of friends. As a result, the intimacy with this kind of people develops slowly. This is convenient to the melancholics. This way they can think carefully about their plans with you and marriage. They can plan things in advance and it is important to them that romance goes as planned.

The secondary temperament plays a powerful role how melancholics love. While generally they are very cautious and careful, melancholic-sanguine people still seek the novelty within the limits.

So which is yours?